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Why boys crack up at rape jok, thk havg a girliend is “gay,” and still n’t cry—and why we need to give them new and better mols of masculy

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AMERI, YOUR FOOD IS SO GAY, BRO-CHEF CULTURE, LA'S POKE EXPLOSN

* gay bro culture *

Incints like the have lled attentn to the harm “bro culture” n e:- The recent ath of Penn State sophomore Timothy Piazza, allegedly due to aterny hazg. Acrdg to BWell, Brown Universy’s health promotn page, toxic masculy – the belief that men mt be hyper-mascule by beg domant, vlent, likg sports, havg sex, not showg emotn, beg homophobic and the like -- ntribut to the ways bro culture n bee harmful to others.

Anthony BlaskoThe Mistn of the Amerin BoyWhy boys crack up at rape jok, thk havg a girliend is “gay, ” and still n’t cry—and why we need to give them new and better mols of masculyUpdated at 9:30 p. He relled an cint two years prr when a senr was braggg the locker room about how he’d nvced one of Cole’s female classmat—a young sophomore, Cole emphasized—that they were an em, then started hookg up wh other girls behd her back. Cole and a iend of his, another sophomore, told him to knock off.

“And as I ntued to step back” and the other sophomore “ntued to step up, you uld tell that the guys on the team stopped likg him as much. They all had female iends; most had gay male iends as well.

'BROS' STARS SAY 'S TIME FOR STRAIGHT PEOPLE TO ENJOY A GAY ROM

K., and Mexi, Amerins reported more social prsure to be ever-ready for sex and to get wh as many women as possible; they also acknowledged more stigma agast homosexualy, and they received more msag that they should ntrol their female partners, as : Men “serve to know” the whereabouts of their girliends or wiv at all tim. “Huh, ” med Josh, a llege sophomore at Washgton State.

“It’s not like my dad is some alholic, emotnally unavailable asshole wh a pulse, ” said a llege sophomore Southern California. A llege sophomore Chigo told me that he hadn’t been able to cry when his parents divorced.

”Although losg ground more progrsive circl, like the one Cole ns , fag remaed pervasive the language of the boys I terviewed—cludg those who sisted that they would never e the word reference to an actual homosexual. That’s seen as heterosexual the “wrong” way, which explas why one high-school junr told me that havg a girliend was “gay. Recently, Pase turned her attentn to no homo, a phrase that gaed tractn the 1990s.

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Most were exprsg a posive emotn, sometim as nocuo as “I love cholate ice cream, #nohomo” or “I loved the movie The Day After Tomorrow, #nohomo.

” No homo is a form of oculatn agast sults om other guys, Pase nclud, a “shield that allows boys to be fully human.

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