Gay Men and Their Mothers: Is There a Special Closens? | Psychology Today

Contents:

• ‘TRMATIZED’ DGHTER OF LGBT PARENTS: ‘MY GAY MOMS OPPRSED ME’
• HOW TO TELL YOUR MOM YOU ARE GAY
• GAY MEN AND THEIR MOTHERS: IS THERE A SPECIAL CLOSENS?
• ROSIE O'DONNELL: BEG A GAY MOM
• GAY MOM
• “MOM, DAD… I’M GAY.” A CHRISTIAN PARENT’S RPONSE
• GAY PARENTS RAISG KIDS: HOW WILL THEY FARE?
• HOW TO DEAL WH HAVG GAY PARENTS
• GAY MOM ON ‘THE KIDS ARE ALL RIGHT’: ‘I KEPT FETTG IT WAS ABOUT LBIANS’
• TOM HOLLAND’S GAY SEX SCENE SETS SOCIAL MEDIA ALIGHT AFTER THE ACTOR SAID PLAYG THE ROLE ‘BROKE HIM’

‘TRMATIZED’ DGHTER OF LGBT PARENTS: ‘MY GAY MOMS OPPRSED ME’

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HOW TO TELL YOUR MOM YOU ARE GAY

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GAY MEN AND THEIR MOTHERS: IS THERE A SPECIAL CLOSENS?

When legendary actor Joel Grey me out as a gay man 2015, nobody was more supportive and happy than dghter Jennifer Grey. "I feel very happy for my dad that he has e to a pot his life where he feels safe and/or fortable enough to clare himself a public way as a gay man, " Grey told People at the time.

This was found to be te for many of the mothers and sons I terviewed for the study scribed the book: Comg Out, Comg Home: Helpg Fai Adjt to a Gay or Lbian Child ().

ROSIE O'DONNELL: BEG A GAY MOM

Neverthels, this closens uld have a downsi, at least temporarily, as many mothers ially blame themselv and the close relatnships for their sons' homosexualy. So, perhaps is not pletely surprisg that once they learned their sons were gay, some of the mothers I terviewed felt that they had done somethg to damage them.

GAY MOM

The fact is that I am the mother and I was told growg up that men bee gay bee their mothers are too motherg.

For a long time, the psychiatric profsn blamed overly close maternal relatnships for g the "disease" of male homosexualy.

Even though rearch sce the 1950's has bunked , this theory persists people's mds and rears s ugly head for mothers when they ially learn their sons are gay. Fortunately, for many mothers of gay son—wh time and tn, they learn that the ia that they had somehow ma their son gay is ad wrong This was te of the mothers my study who also me to see the benefs havg a gay son as will be scribed later this post.

“MOM, DAD… I’M GAY.” A CHRISTIAN PARENT’S RPONSE

My rearch, clil and personal experienc suggt that there is ed a al lk between male homosexualy and a close maternal relatnship but flows the oppose directn than what was prevly thought. In other words, havg a close relatnship wh your mother don't make you gay—beg gay mak you closer to your mother. The young gay mal this study relled sharg terts mon wh their mothers, such as fashn and okg, and were also sensive to their feelgs.

I thk personally [beg gay] ma me a more emotnal person, more sensive, more touch wh both the male and female sis of myself, but allowg me to even acknowledge that other si ma me closer to my mother.

GAY PARENTS RAISG KIDS: HOW WILL THEY FARE?

Once mothers this study got over their feelgs of guilt and got ed to the ia that their sons were gay, they were able to regnize the benefs of havg a gay son.

Closens between mothers and their gay sons is a stereotype and like all stereotyp, sometim they rg te.

However, we get to hot water when we allow stereotyp to get the way of unrstandg the uniquens of dividuals and their circumstanc—so is important to remember that not all mothers and gay sons are close.

HOW TO DEAL WH HAVG GAY PARENTS

Sadly, some mothers simply nnot adjt to their sons' homosexualy, due to their guilt, relig ncerns, or abily to "let go" and accept the ways they live their liv.

For sure, gay men, their mothers and those who assist them need to explore and unrstand the val relatnships.

GAY MOM ON ‘THE KIDS ARE ALL RIGHT’: ‘I KEPT FETTG IT WAS ABOUT LBIANS’

"I don't thk Ameri knows what a gay parent looks like: I am the gay parent, " the entertaer tells ABCNEWS' Diane Sawyer her first -pth terview about her sexualy. She talked about her experienc as a gay parent publicly for the first time wh Sawyer, hopg to brg attentn to the issue of gay adoptn and a Florida law that prevents gay upl om adoptg.

TOM HOLLAND’S GAY SEX SCENE SETS SOCIAL MEDIA ALIGHT AFTER THE ACTOR SAID PLAYG THE ROLE ‘BROKE HIM’

‘I Totally Thk I’m Gay’There's no earth-shatterg g-out story, O'Donnell says, jt a realizatn that dawned on her a private moment. "Part of the reason why I've never said that I was gay until now was bee I didn't want that adjective assigned to my name for all of eterny. "O'Donnell, who lost her mother when she was 10 and scrib her father as "not very available, " says beg gay was not that big of an obstacle her generally difficult, she believ that beg gay is credibly challengg.

And when she learned about a Florida gay parentg se, she found that reason and has ma her Lofton and Roger Crote are raisg five HIV-posive children, three of whom are foster kids.