A nversatn about open and monogamo marriage, for gay men and for all.
Contents:
- A GUI FOR GAY MEN ON BOTH OPEN AND MONOGAMO MARRIAGE
- GAY MALE COUPL: SEXUALLY OPEN OR CLOSED?
- GAY MEN OPEN RELATNSHIPS: WHAT WORKS?
- HOW TO ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE GAY
- HOW TO BE AN OPENLY GAY CHRISTIAN
- WELE TO THE ‘GAY GAM,’ AN ALTERNATIVE TO THE OLYMPICS, WHERE ACTIVISM IS ENURAGED AND EVERYONE’S AN ATHLETE
- WHY THERE ARE FEW OPENLY GAY ATHLET IN MEN'S PROFSNAL SPORTS
- MISS GAY PRI OF PORTLAND 2023 PREVIEWS PORTLAND PRI FT, PARA
A GUI FOR GAY MEN ON BOTH OPEN AND MONOGAMO MARRIAGE
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I had the opportuny to talk wh psychotherapist and thor Michael Dale Kimmel about his new book, The Gay Man's Gui to Open and Monogamo Marriage. MDK: I began offerg workshops for gay, bisexual, and transgenr men about eighteen years’ ago, and after a uple of years there were always a few guys who me up to me and said ( whispered ton), “You’ve got to put this stuff a book. While there are lots of books about how to plan your gay weddg, there were virtually none that addrs what to do after the honeymoon is over (lerally and figuratively).
GAY MALE COUPL: SEXUALLY OPEN OR CLOSED?
Many young gay men are "hopels" romantics, but this may be unrealistic. * gay and open *
The Gay Man’s Gui to Open and Monogamo Marriage dar to ask the qutn: is monogamy or an open relatnship (or a batn of both) the bt way to stcture your marriage?
Same-sex marriage has been a long time g – a few thoand years or so - and now that ’s fally here, many gay, bisexual and transgenr men may thk that ’s a bad ia to “rock the boat” by discsg the kds of ias that this book prents. I believe that now is the perfect time to qutn what gay marriage n, should and will be, while is still relatively new, h and malleable.
GAY MEN OPEN RELATNSHIPS: WHAT WORKS?
As a upl unselor workg wh gay men, I am often asked my opn on monogamy and open gay relatnships. * gay and open *
MDK: I have been givg workshops on “monogamy or open relatnship” for many years, long before gay marriage was legal. While marriage wasn’t a possibily then, the qutns those workshops were basilly the same as those this book: as gay men, do we choose the monogamy of heterosexual marriage as our mol, or do we prefer an open marriage? And yet, most gay marriag emulate whout much thought, assumg that ’s the “right” way to be married.
HOW TO ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE GAY
Beg open about your sexual orientatn should be as easy as breathg, but realy, tak nsc effort and a ltle practice. First, nsir what the Bible says about gay love, and tly ci if that is the path you wish to... * gay and open *
As a psychotherapist for gay upl for many years’ now, ’s been que clear to me that “handbooks” for heterosexual marriage don’t really apply to our marriag several signifint ways: our marriag are more “signed” than “assumed.
HOW TO BE AN OPENLY GAY CHRISTIAN
One gay uple om Atlanta shar how, and why, they ma work. * gay and open *
I wrote the chapter about “refg genr rol, " bee we have an amazg opportuny as married gay men to terme who we are as two men, married to each other. This book enurag everyone, not jt gay men, to take a good look at that formidable stutn and beg to ask some big, meangful qutns, like:. The are not jt qutns for gay upl, they are qutns for all upl: my polyamoro straight clients are alg wh the very same stuff.
WELE TO THE ‘GAY GAM,’ AN ALTERNATIVE TO THE OLYMPICS, WHERE ACTIVISM IS ENURAGED AND EVERYONE’S AN ATHLETE
Tom Wadll, an athlete the 1968 Olympics, created the Gay Gam first held 1982 to celebrate LGBTQ cln. The Gay Gam are still held to this day wh the next round schled for 2022 Hong Kong. * gay and open *
I’ve seen this kd of relatnship many of the gay marriag – both open and monogamo - that I’ve had the pleasure to work wh. Your gay marriage n be amazg, high-functng and extremely fulfillg…if you and your hband are willg to do the work.
WHY THERE ARE FEW OPENLY GAY ATHLET IN MEN'S PROFSNAL SPORTS
Two athlet recently g out has highlighted the arth of openly gay players the world of U.S. men's profsnal sports, often dubbed "the last closet" for s lack of LGBTQ reprentatn. * gay and open *
Gay male upl equently negotiate rmal or formal agreements about whether to perm non-partner sex, yet we know ltle about the velopment and matenance of the agreements or their impact on the relatnship.
I spect many of you readg this post have far more diverse experience than I have wh gay male upl, but I have two observatns based on my terviews wh sr of gay men gog back over 20 years (life histori my growg up gay book) and on my clil practice. Rather ironilly many of the young men are nvced he is the only gay man alive who wants a soul mate!
MISS GAY PRI OF PORTLAND 2023 PREVIEWS PORTLAND PRI FT, PARA
To assist this, I advertised an tnal group for young gay men who want to be a relatnship, have never had one, and want to learn how to “do .