Havg a Gay Kid Isn't Easy

Contents:

• WOULD YOU RATHER HAVE A GAY SON OR X
• YOUR CHILD JT TOLD YOU HE'S GAY. NOW WHAT?
• MORN DOS AND DON'TS FOR PARENTS OF GAY KIDS G OUT
• PARENTS OF GAY CHILDREN AND THE ISSU THEY FACE
• IS MY SON GAY OR IS A PHASE?
• HAVG A GAY KID ISN'T EASY
• RPONDG TO TEEN CHILD WHO SAYS HE’S GAY
• HOW SHOULD CHRISTIAN PARENTS RPOND IF ONE OF THEIR CHILDREN OUT AS GAY?
• GAY SON OR THOT DGHTER?

WOULD YOU RATHER HAVE A GAY SON OR X

Would You Rather Have A Gay Son Or X, also known as Thug Son or Gay Son, is a hypothetil Would You Rather? Qutn ed a seri of mem askg whether the viewer would rather have a gay son or a send optn, often another "type of son" or somethg ironic and absurd. Versns of the phrasal template first appeared onle late 2016, spired by the hypothetil "gay son or thot dghter" meme, seeg e as an exploable over the followg years.

Gay Son or Thot Dghter Precursor. In 2012, hypothetil discsns about whether you'd rather have a gay son or thot dghter started to bee popular onle after rapper Troy Ave tweeted that year, "#IfYouHad2PickOneChild Retard Son | 2. A Gay Son | 3.

Gay Son or Thug Son. Sometime 2015, Instagram er dreheron posted an image macro showg two si-by-si imag of himself, the one on the left showg him short-shorts and a choker, and the one on the left lookg more "gangster" ptned "would you rather have a gay son or thug son" (shown below). On Augt 26th, 2016, an Imgur[1] er posted an image showg si-by-si photos of two Black children, one brandishg a gun and smokg weed on the left[2] and one wearg a crop top and tight jeans on the right, unr the ptn, "Would you rather have a 14 year old Savage son who smoke weed and shoot guns or a 12 year old gay son, " gag over 4, 400 views six years (shown below).

YOUR CHILD JT TOLD YOU HE'S GAY. NOW WHAT?

On November 2nd of that year, Facebook[3] page GQ Gansta Quot posted an image macro g the same image of the kid brandishg the gun on the left and a different image of a Black man a crop top and tight jeans on the right, ptned, "would you rather have a thug son or gay son, " gag over 160 reactns, 200 ments and 162 shar six years (shown below).

For straight parents, havg a child reveal that he is gay n be a jolt.

MORN DOS AND DON'TS FOR PARENTS OF GAY KIDS G OUT

You might ask how long he or she has known, and why he feels he is gay, bi, or trans, suggts Jonathan Tobk, M.

D., a psychiatrist private practice New York Cy and the -thor of When Your Child Is Gay: What You Need to Know. You n fd one through the Associatn of Gay and Lbian Psychiatrists. Take the extra step and show your child that you are terted beg the parent of a gay child.

PARENTS OF GAY CHILDREN AND THE ISSU THEY FACE

Edute yourself on what means to be gay, lbian, bisexual or transgenr. PFLAG, or Parents for Lbians and Gays, which now has a group for transgenr youth, and holds natnwi chapters and meetgs;. Gay son or thot dghter?

More gay people are g out and g out earlier than ever before this untry. The creasgly open exampl of a normalized homosexual adulthood are givg young gay men and women the urage to be hont and open about their sexualy, and are changg the opns of the people they are g out to.

IS MY SON GAY OR IS A PHASE?

I've got a big gay gui to help you out.

HAVG A GAY KID ISN'T EASY

I got together wh two new generatn gays (Marie and Stt) at Canada's top secret gay headquarters (Starbucks) to get their take on morn dos and don'ts for parents wh gay kids g out.

The are their top five Foster a posive LGBTQ atmosphereHomosexualy all shap and siz. If you feel your child may be gay, one of the most important thgs you n do is create a gay-iendly environment, you jt don't have to be obv. "It n be as easy as reactg kdly or exprsg affy toward gay people the news or on TV too.

Be patient and let your gay souffle fish okg before you open the oven 'T: Say "I still love you no matter what"This seems like a nice thg to say and 's somethg you will see a lot of dramatizatns on TV. But as Stt pots out there is a subtext: "Sayg 'I love you no matter what' suggts that your kid's gayns is somethg to be overlooked the name of love. It translat to 'I love you even though you are gay' as if gayns were an illns or aberratn.

RPONDG TO TEEN CHILD WHO SAYS HE’S GAY

'"DON'T: Make about youComg out is a big al a gay person's life. Stt's parents are probably feelg bad that they didn't foster a gay-posive environment and are feelg a ltle guilty about their son sufferg silence. If your son or dghter don't feel fortable talkg to you right away, or if you don't feel fortable talkg about right away, try nsultg another gay person or anizatn (ex PFLAG) is a suatn Marie experienced tellg me, "Bee I was away at school after g out to my mom, I didn't have the experience of 'livg wh ' daily so I wasn't aware that she was really stgglg wh .

But about a year ago she admted to me that she did stggle wh unrstandg at first, but that changed when she spoke to other gay people and sought out rourc for parents of gay people. They helped her unrstand that beg gay don't change who your son/dghter is.

"DON'T: Ask if is a phaseYour gay son or dghter knows who they are attracted to the same way you do.

HOW SHOULD CHRISTIAN PARENTS RPOND IF ONE OF THEIR CHILDREN OUT AS GAY?

Ie: askg if there was a trmatic experience or relatnship that ed your kid to "turn, " (I thk this is very mon for gay women to be asked) or if they jt "haven't met the right guy/girl yet. "The tips are meant to smooth over some mon speed bumps the morn g out procs, however, not all Canadian kids are lucky enough to have a fay open to havg a gay kid or open to changg their mds on homosexualy.

Luckily this untry is replete wh rourc to help gay kids through a tough time that n sometim leave them homels or suicidal.

If you are a gay person crisis anizatns like PFLAG Canada, Kids Help Phone, Egale Canada are jt a ll or click 'T: Make about youOne of the most mon reactns om parents n be steppg to a closet of their own, feelg the need to hi the fact that their child has jt e out. As I relayed When Your Child Is Gay: What You Need To Know (Sterlg, 2016), I found out that my son was gay om a note wh our son's name entwed wh another boy's, surround by a heart.

GAY SON OR THOT DGHTER?

I had spected at tim that he was gay. Had I asked him if he were gay when he was 13, he probably would have fensively said "No! San Berland, the mother of a gay son who ach parents of LGBTQ kids, utn, "It's not a good ia to ask.

Acrdg to my -thor, psychiatrist Jonathan Tobk, "Gay children feel credibly vulnerable when g out to their parents, and tak time to work up the urage to do this.