I'm gay and I'm not a top or a bottom – I'm a 'si' | Metro News

Contents:

• SI GUYS: THKG BEYOND GAY MALE "TOPS" AND "BOTTOMS"
• GAY "SIS": HOW LANGUAGE FRE US TO BE OURSELV
• I’M GAY AND I’M NOT A TOP OR A BOTTOM – I’M A ‘SI’
• GAY
• MEANG OF GAY ENGLISH
• WHAT DO IT MEAN TO BE GAY? DEFN AND MEANG OF GAY

SI GUYS: THKG BEYOND GAY MALE "TOPS" AND "BOTTOMS"

Gay men are always fg themselv as top and bottom or verse for terurse. A third add: “Personally I’m not crazy about the term ‘si’ (sounds to me like someone lyg there, dog not much) but ’s good that Grdr acknowledg that there’s more to gay sex than anal.

The gay datg app Grdr n seem like a mefield wh s extensive e of slang – here’s what terms like GEN, NPNC and si is the most popular LGBTQ datg app the world and a cemented part of gay culture. SiThe word “si” the ntext of Grdr, and gay culture more generally, refers to someone’s sexual preference.

Acrdg to Urban Dictnary, a si is “a homosexual male who do not enjoy anal peratn (givg or receivg), but will engage other forms of same sex activy. When to sex, whether you’re gay, bi, or straight, we’ve all been a ltle brawashed to believg that there is this thg lled “normal. In the gay male muny, ually, you’re eher nsired to be a “top, ” the perator, or a “bottom, ” the perated, or you’re versatile (n go eher way).

GAY "SIS": HOW LANGUAGE FRE US TO BE OURSELV

But what if you’re a gay man who don’t enjoy anal sex or fds anal peratn paful, don’t like the feelg or the troublome amount of preparatn and cleang up need for to be a pleasurable experience, or simply don’t experience anal sex as erotic? That’s why a 2013 article I wrote for Huffgton Post, "Guys on the ‘Si’: Lookg Beyond Gay Tops and Bottoms, " I began workg on popularizg the term “si” orr for the gay men to have the language to exprs their sexual and erotic preference. I’ve seen gay male clients who rry a load of shame about not likg or wantg to get or give anal sex.

There are straight men who like havg anal sex and/or beg perated wh a dildo, and there are gay men who don’t. Often ed to refer to asexual people  a siar manner as “gay” or “straight” are ed to refer to homosexual or heterosexual people. Ally: A person who supports and rpects sexual diversy, acts acrdgly to challenge homophobic and heterosexist remarks and behavrs, and is willg to explore and unrstand the forms of bias wh themselv.

An umbrella term that refers to members of a subculture the gay and bisexual male muni and is often fed as more of an attu or sense of fort wh natural masculy and bodi.

I’M GAY AND I’M NOT A TOP OR A BOTTOM – I’M A ‘SI’

Bicur: An dividual who typilly intifi as gay or straight while showg some cursy for a relatnship or sexual activy wh a person of the genr they do not favor.

GAY

Faghag/Ffly: A woman who associat mostly or exclively wh gay or bisexual men.

Fluid: A sexual or genr inty that exists beyond a bary system of eher gay or straight, man or woman.

Gay: At tim, “gay” is ed to refer to all people, regardls of sex, who have their primary sexual and or romantic attractns to people of the same sex. The term n also exclively refer to men who are emotnally, romantilly, sexually, affectnately, or relatnally attracted to other men, or who intify as members of the gay muny. Lbians, bisexuals, and transgenr dividuals may feel exclud by the term “gay.

MEANG OF GAY ENGLISH

Heteronormativy: The assumptn, dividuals or stutns, that everyone is heterosexual, or that heterosexualy is superr to homosexualy and bisexualy. Also, the benefs that lbians, gay men and bisexuals receive as a rult of claimg a heterosexual inty and nyg a lbian, gay or bisexual inty. Homoflexible: A person who is mostly attracted to the same sex/genr, but n, on ocsn be attracted to the oppose sex/genr.

Homophobia: Fear of, hatred of, or disfort wh people who love and sexually sire members of the same sex. Homophobic reactns often lead to tolerance, bigotry and vlence agast anyone not actg wh soc-cultural norms of heterosexualy. Bee most LGBTQ people are raised the same society as heterosexuals, they learn the same beliefs and stereotyp prevalent the domant society, leadg to a phenomenon known as ternalized homophobia, whereas LGBTQ-intified dividuals feel shame, guilt or hatred towards the part of themselv intified as LGBTQ.

WHAT DO IT MEAN TO BE GAY? DEFN AND MEANG OF GAY

Homoromantic: A person who is romantilly attracted to a member of the same sex or genr. A homoromantic person is not necsarily sexually attracted to the same sex or genr.