What Do You Say To “That’s So Gay” and Other Anti-LGBTQ Comments? - Human Rights Campaign

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• PHRASE 'THAT'S GAY' ACCEPTABLE TO NEARLY HALF OF YOUNG PEOPLE
• "THAT'S SO GAY" IS JT SO WRONG
• THAT'S GAY
• WHAT DO YOU SAY TO ‘THAT’S SO GAY’ & OTHER ANTI-LGBTQ+ COMMENTS?
• SAYG 'THAT'S GAY' PEJORATIVELY HURTS THE LGBTQ+ COMMUNY, STOP SAYG IT
• STOP SAYG “THAT’S SO GAY!”: 6 TYP OF MICROAGGRSNS THAT HARM LGBTQ PEOPLE
• A GAY GIRL’S GUI TO THE 2023 WOMEN’S WORLD CUP
• THAT'S SO GAY
• ACTIVISTS NMN VLENCE AGAST LGBTQ MUNY ST. VCENT, WHERE GAY SEX IS ILLEGAL
• IS IT OK TO SAY "THAT'S SO GAY"?
• THAT’S GAYTOM MACDONALD & MADCHILDTRACK 11 ON KILLG THE NEIGHBORS PRODUCED BYTOM MACDONALD1 VIEWER10 CONTRIBUTORSTHAT’S GAY LYRICS[VERSE 1: TOM MACDONALD]HEY, EVERYTHG'S GAY, AND THAT'S NOT OFFENSIVE, 'S SOMETHG WE SAYIT'S NOT A KICK  THE GUT, I A'T PCHG YOUR BUTT, I DON'T HATE HOW YOU LOVE, 'S A PHRASEIT'S REALLY GAY OUR DAY AND AGE, WE TAKE GAY JOK SO SERYOU'RE F LOOP, I'M A CHEER, AND THEY'RE BOTH AMAZG CEREALSI DON'T KISS DUS, I DON'T HOLD HANDS, BUT IF YOU DO, THAT'S FEY'ALL SHOULD THANK PEOPLE FOR BEG STRAIGHT, WE'RE THE REASON THAT YOU'RE ALIVELIKE, E ON, GUYS, NO GAY JOK, GET ? "CUM ON GUYS"LOL, LGBTQ, I'M KIDDG, YOU'LL BE FEYOU N LL ME GAY ALL DAY, I UNRSTAND, AND I'M NOT QUEERI ULD SAY YOU'RE PACKG FUDGE, I KNOW YOU'RE NOT A CHOLATIERYOU N HATE ME 'E I SAY THGS LIKE "RETARD" AND "THAT'S GAY"AND IF YOU THK THAT I MEAN , THAT'S RETARD AND YOU'RE GAY[PRE-CHOS: TOM MACDONALD]YOU'RE GAY, SO GAYGO LIVE YOUR LIFE YOUR WAYI'M STRAIGHT, SO STRAIGHTDON'T BE MAD WHEN I SAY[CHOS: TOM MACDONALD]THAT'S SUPER GAY, REALLY GAY, VERY GAY, STUPID GAYI KNOW THAT A'T RIGHT, I SAY ANYWAYTHAT'S SUPER GAY, REALLY GAY, VERY GAY, STUPID GAYI THK THAT STUFF IS GAY, I SAY EVERY DAYYOU MIGHT ALSO LIKE[VERSE 2: MADCHILD]SOMETIM I WISH I WAS GAY, MAN, I'D SMASHED EVERY BCH THIS PLACEAND I AM A SLUT, I ULD WALK TO CLUBS AND HAVE 20 NEW DICKS MY FACENO SHARK WEEK, NO CRAZY PERDS, MOST GIRLS I MEET ARE CRAZY, PERDSO I'LL ADM, THAT MA ME CUR, ULDN'T TURN GAY THAT MA FURI'M A STRAIGHT WHE MALE, THAT'S GAY AS FUCK, GUYS SAY I'M CUTE? I SAY: "WHAT'S UP?"MAN, GOOD FOR YOU, MAN, LIVE YOUR LIFE, MAN, I LOVE PSY THOUGH, I'M ALRIGHT, MANHEY, WOMEN ARE WHOLE DIFFERENT CREATUR, STILL TRYNA FIGURE THEM OUTI'MMA KEEP WORKG ON THAT, I JT N'T PUT YOUR DICK MY MOUTH"YOU DON'T GET TO CHOOSE", I GUS 'S JT HOW YOU WERE BORN, AYYI TRIED TO WATCH LADYBOY PORN, BUT I ALMOST THREW UP MY SHORTSBUT I ME FIRST, JT AIM, SQUIRT, CUM-STAED SHIRT, THEN I FELT GROSSAND I LLED THE GIRL I WAS DATG THAT WEEK, SHE ME OVER, AND I HELD HER CLOSE[PRE-CHOS: TOM MACDONALD]YOU'RE GAY, SO GAYGO LIVE YOUR LIFE YOUR WAYI'M STRAIGHT, SO STRAIGHTDON'T BE MAD WHEN I SAY[CHOS: TOM MACDONALD]THAT'S SUPER GAY, REALLY GAY, VERY GAY, STUPID GAYI KNOW THAT A'T RIGHT, I SAY ANYWAYTHAT'S SUPER GAY, REALLY GAY, VERY GAY, STUPID GAYI THK THAT STUFF IS GAY, I SAY EVERY DAY[BRIDGE: TOM MACDONALD]I'M NOT GAY, IF YOU ARE, THEN THAT'S OKAYAND I N SAY WHAT I WANT, AND YOU N HATE IF YOU'RE STRAIGHT, THEN DO SOMETHG LAMEI'LL SAY 'S GAY, 'S GAY, 'S GAY[PRE-CHOS: TOM MACDONALD]YOU'RE GAY, SO GAYGO LIVE YOUR LIFE YOUR WAYI'M STRAIGHT, SO STRAIGHTDON'T BE MAD WHEN I SAY[CHOS: TOM MACDONALD]THAT'S SUPER GAY, REALLY GAY, VERY GAY, STUPID GAYI KNOW THAT A'T RIGHT, I SAY ANYWAYTHAT'S SUPER GAY, REALLY GAY, VERY GAY, STUPID GAYI THK THAT STUFF IS GAY, I SAY EVERY DAYEMBEDCANCELHOW TO FORMAT LYRICS:TYPE OUT ALL LYRICS, EVEN REPEATG SONG PARTS LIKE THE CHOSLYRICS SHOULD BE BROKEN DOWN TO DIVIDUAL LUSE SECTN HEARS ABOVE DIFFERENT SONG PARTS LIKE [VERSE], [CHOS], ETC.USE ALICS (<I>LYRIC</I>) AND BOLD (<B>LYRIC</B>) TO DISTGUISH BETWEEN DIFFERENT VOLISTS THE SAME SONG PARTIF YOU DON’T UNRSTAND A LYRIC, E [?]TO LEARN MORE, CHECK OUT OUR TRANSCRIPTN GUI OR VIS OUR TRANSCRIBERS FOMABOUTTHIS SONG B IS UNREVIEWEDGENI ANNOTATN1 NTRIBUTORA SONG WHERE TOM MACDONALD EXPRS MATURELEY THAT HE KNOWS THERE IS NOTHG WRONG WH BEG GAY BUT WILL NTUE TO E AS AN SULT FOR BAD THGS EVEN THO H NOT HOMOPHOBIC ALRIGHT GUYS??EXPAND -3SHAREASK A QUTN ABOUT THIS SONGASK A QUTN *‌WHO PRODUCED “THAT'S GAY” BY TOM MACDONALD & MADCHILD?WHO WROTE “THAT'S GAY” BY TOM MACDONALD & MADCHILD?KILLG THE NEIGHBORS (2020)TOM MACDONALD & MADCHILD1. INTRO2. GOG TO HELL3. SOBER4. SK I5. WHE TRASH6. LONE WOLF7. GUCKY8. SK II9. BAD NEWS10. FEMUTZ11. THAT’S GAY12. SK III13. O.M.G.14. D.R.U.G.15. OUTROCREDSPRODUCED BYTOM MACDONALDWRTEN BYTOM MACDONALD & MADCHILDMA ARTISTSMADCHILD & TOM MACDONALDTAGSRAPEXPAND COMMENTSADD A MENTSIGN UP AND DROP KNOWLEDGE ?GENI IS THE ULTIMATE SOURCE OF MIC KNOWLEDGE, CREATED BY SCHOLARS LIKE YOU WHO SHARE FACTS AND SIGHT ABOUT THE SONGS AND ARTISTS THEY LOVE.SIGN UPGENI IS THE WORLD’S BIGGT LLECTN OF SONG LYRICS AND MIL KNOWLEDGE
• THE TE MEANG BEHD “THAT’S SO GAY”
• 'THAT'S SO GAY' PHRASE HAS LASTG IMPACT FOR LGBT YOUTH, STUDY FDS
• WHAT DO YOU SAY TO “THAT’S SO GAY” AND OTHER ANTI-LGBTQ COMMENTS?
• HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY

PHRASE 'THAT'S GAY' ACCEPTABLE TO NEARLY HALF OF YOUNG PEOPLE

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"THAT'S SO GAY" IS JT SO WRONG

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THAT'S GAY

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WHAT DO YOU SAY TO ‘THAT’S SO GAY’ & OTHER ANTI-LGBTQ+ COMMENTS?

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SAYG 'THAT'S GAY' PEJORATIVELY HURTS THE LGBTQ+ COMMUNY, STOP SAYG IT

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STOP SAYG “THAT’S SO GAY!”: 6 TYP OF MICROAGGRSNS THAT HARM LGBTQ PEOPLE

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A GAY GIRL’S GUI TO THE 2023 WOMEN’S WORLD CUP

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THAT'S SO GAY

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ACTIVISTS NMN VLENCE AGAST LGBTQ MUNY ST. VCENT, WHERE GAY SEX IS ILLEGAL

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IS IT OK TO SAY "THAT'S SO GAY"?

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THAT’S GAYTOM MACDONALD & MADCHILDTRACK 11 ON KILLG THE NEIGHBORS PRODUCED BYTOM MACDONALD1 VIEWER10 CONTRIBUTORSTHAT’S GAY LYRICS[VERSE 1: TOM MACDONALD]HEY, EVERYTHG'S GAY, AND THAT'S NOT OFFENSIVE, 'S SOMETHG WE SAYIT'S NOT A KICK  THE GUT, I A'T PCHG YOUR BUTT, I DON'T HATE HOW YOU LOVE, 'S A PHRASEIT'S REALLY GAY OUR DAY AND AGE, WE TAKE GAY JOK SO SERYOU'RE F LOOP, I'M A CHEER, AND THEY'RE BOTH AMAZG CEREALSI DON'T KISS DUS, I DON'T HOLD HANDS, BUT IF YOU DO, THAT'S FEY'ALL SHOULD THANK PEOPLE FOR BEG STRAIGHT, WE'RE THE REASON THAT YOU'RE ALIVELIKE, E ON, GUYS, NO GAY JOK, GET ? "CUM ON GUYS"LOL, LGBTQ, I'M KIDDG, YOU'LL BE FEYOU N LL ME GAY ALL DAY, I UNRSTAND, AND I'M NOT QUEERI ULD SAY YOU'RE PACKG FUDGE, I KNOW YOU'RE NOT A CHOLATIERYOU N HATE ME 'E I SAY THGS LIKE "RETARD" AND "THAT'S GAY"AND IF YOU THK THAT I MEAN , THAT'S RETARD AND YOU'RE GAY[PRE-CHOS: TOM MACDONALD]YOU'RE GAY, SO GAYGO LIVE YOUR LIFE YOUR WAYI'M STRAIGHT, SO STRAIGHTDON'T BE MAD WHEN I SAY[CHOS: TOM MACDONALD]THAT'S SUPER GAY, REALLY GAY, VERY GAY, STUPID GAYI KNOW THAT A'T RIGHT, I SAY ANYWAYTHAT'S SUPER GAY, REALLY GAY, VERY GAY, STUPID GAYI THK THAT STUFF IS GAY, I SAY EVERY DAYYOU MIGHT ALSO LIKE[VERSE 2: MADCHILD]SOMETIM I WISH I WAS GAY, MAN, I'D SMASHED EVERY BCH THIS PLACEAND I AM A SLUT, I ULD WALK TO CLUBS AND HAVE 20 NEW DICKS MY FACENO SHARK WEEK, NO CRAZY PERDS, MOST GIRLS I MEET ARE CRAZY, PERDSO I'LL ADM, THAT MA ME CUR, ULDN'T TURN GAY THAT MA FURI'M A STRAIGHT WHE MALE, THAT'S GAY AS FUCK, GUYS SAY I'M CUTE? I SAY: "WHAT'S UP?"MAN, GOOD FOR YOU, MAN, LIVE YOUR LIFE, MAN, I LOVE PSY THOUGH, I'M ALRIGHT, MANHEY, WOMEN ARE WHOLE DIFFERENT CREATUR, STILL TRYNA FIGURE THEM OUTI'MMA KEEP WORKG ON THAT, I JT N'T PUT YOUR DICK MY MOUTH"YOU DON'T GET TO CHOOSE", I GUS 'S JT HOW YOU WERE BORN, AYYI TRIED TO WATCH LADYBOY PORN, BUT I ALMOST THREW UP MY SHORTSBUT I ME FIRST, JT AIM, SQUIRT, CUM-STAED SHIRT, THEN I FELT GROSSAND I LLED THE GIRL I WAS DATG THAT WEEK, SHE ME OVER, AND I HELD HER CLOSE[PRE-CHOS: TOM MACDONALD]YOU'RE GAY, SO GAYGO LIVE YOUR LIFE YOUR WAYI'M STRAIGHT, SO STRAIGHTDON'T BE MAD WHEN I SAY[CHOS: TOM MACDONALD]THAT'S SUPER GAY, REALLY GAY, VERY GAY, STUPID GAYI KNOW THAT A'T RIGHT, I SAY ANYWAYTHAT'S SUPER GAY, REALLY GAY, VERY GAY, STUPID GAYI THK THAT STUFF IS GAY, I SAY EVERY DAY[BRIDGE: TOM MACDONALD]I'M NOT GAY, IF YOU ARE, THEN THAT'S OKAYAND I N SAY WHAT I WANT, AND YOU N HATE IF YOU'RE STRAIGHT, THEN DO SOMETHG LAMEI'LL SAY 'S GAY, 'S GAY, 'S GAY[PRE-CHOS: TOM MACDONALD]YOU'RE GAY, SO GAYGO LIVE YOUR LIFE YOUR WAYI'M STRAIGHT, SO STRAIGHTDON'T BE MAD WHEN I SAY[CHOS: TOM MACDONALD]THAT'S SUPER GAY, REALLY GAY, VERY GAY, STUPID GAYI KNOW THAT A'T RIGHT, I SAY ANYWAYTHAT'S SUPER GAY, REALLY GAY, VERY GAY, STUPID GAYI THK THAT STUFF IS GAY, I SAY EVERY DAYEMBEDCANCELHOW TO FORMAT LYRICS:TYPE OUT ALL LYRICS, EVEN REPEATG SONG PARTS LIKE THE CHOSLYRICS SHOULD BE BROKEN DOWN TO DIVIDUAL LUSE SECTN HEARS ABOVE DIFFERENT SONG PARTS LIKE [VERSE], [CHOS], ETC.USE ALICS (<I>LYRIC</I>) AND BOLD (<B>LYRIC</B>) TO DISTGUISH BETWEEN DIFFERENT VOLISTS THE SAME SONG PARTIF YOU DON’T UNRSTAND A LYRIC, E [?]TO LEARN MORE, CHECK OUT OUR TRANSCRIPTN GUI OR VIS OUR TRANSCRIBERS FOMABOUTTHIS SONG B IS UNREVIEWEDGENI ANNOTATN1 NTRIBUTORA SONG WHERE TOM MACDONALD EXPRS MATURELEY THAT HE KNOWS THERE IS NOTHG WRONG WH BEG GAY BUT WILL NTUE TO E AS AN SULT FOR BAD THGS EVEN THO H NOT HOMOPHOBIC ALRIGHT GUYS??EXPAND -3SHAREASK A QUTN ABOUT THIS SONGASK A QUTN *‌WHO PRODUCED “THAT'S GAY” BY TOM MACDONALD & MADCHILD?WHO WROTE “THAT'S GAY” BY TOM MACDONALD & MADCHILD?KILLG THE NEIGHBORS (2020)TOM MACDONALD & MADCHILD1. INTRO2. GOG TO HELL3. SOBER4. SK I5. WHE TRASH6. LONE WOLF7. GUCKY8. SK II9. BAD NEWS10. FEMUTZ11. THAT’S GAY12. SK III13. O.M.G.14. D.R.U.G.15. OUTROCREDSPRODUCED BYTOM MACDONALDWRTEN BYTOM MACDONALD & MADCHILDMA ARTISTSMADCHILD & TOM MACDONALDTAGSRAPEXPAND COMMENTSADD A MENTSIGN UP AND DROP KNOWLEDGE ?GENI IS THE ULTIMATE SOURCE OF MIC KNOWLEDGE, CREATED BY SCHOLARS LIKE YOU WHO SHARE FACTS AND SIGHT ABOUT THE SONGS AND ARTISTS THEY LOVE.SIGN UPGENI IS THE WORLD’S BIGGT LLECTN OF SONG LYRICS AND MIL KNOWLEDGE

While I was no longer harassed about my closeted sexual orientatn, I didn’t have any iends that were openly gay and most of my iends didn’t have any eher. While many loved on later told me that they spected that I was gay, no one gave me any reason to believe that they were gay-iendly. In retrospect, I had a very difficult time acceptg my gay inty, bee of the microaggrsns that I experienced throughout my life.

THE TE MEANG BEHD “THAT’S SO GAY”

One of the reasons why was important for me to study microaggrsns agast lbian, gay, bisexual, transgenr, queer and qutng (LGBTQ) people was bee I knew that this type of discrimatn existed and bee I hypothized that they had a signifint impact on the liv of LGBTQ people, particularly on their mental health and inty velopment. For me, is anytime someone says “That’s so gay” and “No homo” my prence; for my transgenr iends, uld be anytime someone says “tranny”, “she-male”, or other rogatory terms. Maybe this is why 9 out of 10 LGBTQ high school stunts report experiencg harassment at school and why 2/3 of them say they feel unsafe (Gay, Lbian, and Straight Edutn Network, 2010).

For stance, sometim, people tell me I’m not “a typil gay guy” bee of some stereotype I don’t fulfill; other tim, people assume that I would tomatilly get along wh another gay guy simply bee we are attracted to the same genr. In the media, an example clus one time when Paris Hilton said that gay men are “disgtg” and “probably have AIDS” or recently when The Bachelor said that gay people were “more ‘pervert’ a sense.

'THAT'S SO GAY' PHRASE HAS LASTG IMPACT FOR LGBT YOUTH, STUDY FDS

Anytime that any straight man assum that I would h on them, not only are they mistakenly flatterg themselv, they are munitg that they thk that all gay men n’t keep their hands to themselv.

WHAT DO YOU SAY TO “THAT’S SO GAY” AND OTHER ANTI-LGBTQ COMMENTS?

Kev Nadal is an Associate Profsor of Psychology at John Jay College of Crimal Jtice – Cy Universy of New York, the Vice Print of the Asian Amerin Psychologil Associatn, and the thor of “That’s So Gay! The 2009 Natnal School Climate Survey: The Experienc of Lbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgenr Youth our Natn’s Schools.

HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY

(2010) Sexual orientatn and transgenr microaggrsns everyday life: Experienc of lbians, gays, bisexuals, and transgenr dividuals. Sexual orientatn microaggrsns: Procs and pg mechanisms for lbian, gay, and bisexual dividuals. Last time at the 2019 Women’s World Cup, the Netherlands lay claim to the honor of beg the team wh the most out LGBTQ players, but this year Atralia boasts 10 out players and overtak them for the tle of Gayt Team 2k23.

Ireland’s historic entry to the tournament marks another triumph for out midfielr Sead Farrelly, whose natnal team but and 2023 return to the NWSL e more than six years after retirg om soccer the wake of systemic homophobic and sexual abe wh the league, which the Athletic first reported on 2021.