This week Mormon Land: Gay policy add to missnary manual, apostle’s wife remembers sgle life, church buys Chigo tower

Contents:

• MORMON AND GAY: CHURCH SAYS YOU N BE BOTH
• POLICY CHANG ANNOUNCED FOR MEMBERS GAY MARRIAG, CHILDREN OF LGBT PARENTS
• GAY MORMONS DISTRSED BY NEW RUL ON SAME-SEX RELATNSHIPS
• THIS WEEK MORMON LAND: GAY POLICY ADD TO MISSNARY MANUAL, APOSTLE’S WIFE REMEMBERS SGLE LIFE, CHURCH BUYS CHIGO TOWER(PHOTO URTY EXCEL ENTERTAMENT) JANE MANNG SS WH THE PARTRIDGE AND LAWRENCE SISTERS A SCENE OM THE UPG FEATURE FILM TLED "JANE & EMMA."BY DAVID NOYCE  | AUG. 17, 2018, 6:15 P.M. | UPDATED: 7:49 P.M.THE MORMON LAND NEWSLETTER IS A WEEKLY HIGHLIGHT REEL OF VELOPMENTS AND ABOUT THE CHURCH OF J CHRIST OF LATTER-DAY SATS, WHETHER HERALD HEADL, PREACHED OM THE PULP OR BUZZED ABOUT ON THE BACK BENCH. WANT MORMON LAND YOUR BOX? SUBSCRIBE HERE.THIS WEEK’S PODST: ‘JANE AND EMMA’ ON THE BIG SCREEN(COURTY EXCEL ENTERTAMENT) DANIELLE DEADWYLER AND EY GOSS PORTRAY JANE MANNG AND EMMA SMH, RPECTIVELY, THE UPG FEATURE FILM "JANE & EMMA."EMMA SMH STANDS ALONE AS THE MOST FAMO WOMAN MORMON HISTORY. THE WIFE OF CHURCH FOUNR JOSEPH SMH IS MENTNED HISTORI, JOURNALS, EVEN LDS SCRIPTURE.LS KNOWN IS HER ENDURG AND ENARG IENDSHIP WH THE EARLY CHURCH’S MOST NOTED BLACK WOMAN, JANE MANNG JAM.A FORTHG FILM, TLED “JANE AND EMMA,” DOCUMENTS AND DRAMATIZ THEIR RELATNSHIP.THE MOVIE’S DIRECTOR, CHANTELLE SQUIR, AND S SCREENWRER, MELISSA LEILANI LARSON, DISCS THE FILM, S TLE CHARACTERS AND THEIR HOP FOR WHAT THE FILM MIGHT DO FOR RACE RELATNS WH — AND WHOUT — THE CHURCH.LISTEN HERE.‘PREACH MY GOSPEL’ PREACH THE GAY POLICYTHE CHURCH’S HOTLY DISPUTED NOVEMBER 2015 POLICY — CLARG SAME-SEX MORMON UPL “APOSTAT” AND GENERALLY FORBIDDG THEIR CHILDREN OM RELIG R UNTIL THEY TURN 18 — HAS FOUND A HOME NOT ONLY THE FAH’S HANDBOOK FOR BISHOPS AND STAKE PRINTS BUT ALSO S TRAG MANUAL FOR MISSNARI.THE UPDATED “PREACH MY GOSPEL,” A FIELD GUI OF SORTS FOR PROSELYTIZERS, NTAS THE FOLLOWG NDN THAT MT BE MET BEFORE MISSNARI N BAPTIZE A MOR:“THE CHILD’S PRIMARY RINCE IS NOT WH PARENTS WHO ARE POLYGAMISTS OR A SAME-SEX RELATNSHIP. IF ONE OR BOTH OF THE CHILD’S PARENTS ARE POLYGAMISTS, YOU MT NTACT THE MISSN PRINT FOR ADDNAL RMATN. FOR ADDNAL RMATN REGARDG CHILDREN OF PARENTS SAME-SEX RELATNSHIPS, SEE FIRST PRINCY LETTER, NOV. 13, 2015 (“FIRST PRINCY CLARIFI CHURCH HANDBOOK CHANG,” ) AND “CHURCH PROVIS CONTEXT ON HANDBOOK CHANG AFFECTG SAME-SEX MARRIAG,” NOV. 6, 2015 ().”ADDISON JENKS, A BRIGHAM YOUNG UNIVERSY STUNT AND AN OPENLY GAY MORMON, TOLD KUER’S LEE HALE THAT THE ADDN TO “PREACH MY GOSPEL” APPEARS TO BE CEMENTG PLACE THE 2015 POLICY.THAT EXCLNARY CREE, HE SAID, SENTIALLY TOLD GAY LATTER-DAY SATS: “IF YOU WANT TO BE GAY AND MORMON, OK, BUT YOU HAVE TO BE MORMON. AND YOU N’T REALLY BE GAY.”APOSTLE’S WIFE REMEMBERS CHALLENG OF SGLE LIFE(RICK EGAN | THE SALT LAKE TRIBUNE) APOSTLE M. RSELL BALLARD, DALL H. OAKS, AND HIS WIFE, KRISTEN OAKS, AFTER THE SATURDAY MORNG SSN OF THE188TH ANNUAL GENERAL CONFERENCE SALT LAKE CY, SATURDAY, MARCH 31, 2018.IT’S NOT ALWAYS EASY TO BE SGLE A CHURCH THAT PREACH ETERNAL MARRIAGE AND THAT FAI ARE “CENTRAL TO THE CREATOR’S PLAN FOR THE ETERNAL STY OF HIS CHILDREN.”A PROMENT LDS WOMAN KNOWS SOMETHG ABOUT THAT CHALLENGE. AFTER ALL, SHE WAS SGLE FOR NEARLY 53 YEARS — UNTIL SHE MARRIED APOSTLE DALL H. OAKS TWO YEARS AFTER HIS FIRST WIFE DIED.“I REJOICED DURG MY SGLE YEARS, AND I SUFFERED THROUGH THEM, TOO,” KRISTEN MEREDH MCMA OAKS WR THE LDS CHURCH NEWS, “WHILE I WAS DISVERG WHAT HEAVENLY FATHER WANTED FOR ME.”KRISTEN OAKS NOT HOW HELPFUL SGL WARDS N BE AND HOW DIFFICULT THE TRANSN N BE FOR UNMARRIED ADULT MORMONS WHEN THEY SWCH TO TRADNAL “FAY” NGREGATNS.“WHAT THE SGL WARD DO PROVI IS AN ENVIRONMENT TO ASSOCIATE WH OTHERS OF SIAR TERTS AND AGE, WHERE BEG SGLE IS THE NORM. IT IS EASY TO FEEL ACCEPTED WHEN OUR LIV ARE SO MUCH LIKE THOSE AROUND ,” SHE WR. “... FOR SOME, A MOVE TO A FAY WARD N SEEM LIKE A SEPARATN OM A SURROGATE FAY AND CLOSE IENDS. IT IS EXACERBATED BY ENTERG A RINTIAL WARD AND SEARCHG FOR A PLACE TO F . I PERSONALLY REMEMBER HOW DIFFICULT WAS FOR ME AS A SGLE TO S ALONE CHURCH EVERY SUNDAY.”HOW DID SHE PE?“SERVICE AND LLGS,” SHE SAID, “MA ALL THE DIFFERENCE.”THE RELIGN OF NAME-DROPPG“TH SHALL MY CHURCH BE LLED THE LAST DAYS, EVEN THE CHURCH OF J CHRIST OF LATTER-DAY SATS.”SO CLARED JOSEPH SMH 1838 A WHAT HE REPORTED AS A REVELATN OM GOD.MORE THAN 180 YEARS LATER, PRINT RSELL M. NELSON PROCLAIMED MUCH THE SAME THG:“THE LORD HAS IMPRSED UPON MY MD THE IMPORTANCE OF THE NAME HE HAS REVEALED FOR HIS CHURCH, EVEN THE CHURCH OF J CHRIST OF LATTER-DAY SATS,” THE 93-YEAR-OLD LEAR SAID A NEWS RELEASE URGG MEMBERS, NONMEMBERS, MEDIA AND OTHERS TO STOP REFERRG TO THE UTAH-BASED FAH BY THE NICKNAME “LDS CHURCH” OR “MORMON CHURCH.”CALLG MEMBERS “MORMONS” IS OUT AS WELL. NELSON PREFERS “LATTER-DAY SATS.”THE CHURCH TRIED THIS BEFORE BUT BACKED AWAY AND EVEN EMBRACED THE “MORMON” MONIKER. WNS, FOR STANCE, THE “MEET THE MORMONS” MOVIE, THE “I’M A MORMON” AD MPAIGN AND THE MORMONANDGAY WEBSE.SOME LATTER-DAY SATS DOUBT THE LATT RENAMG MOVE WILL WORK AS WELL. CHECK BACK A FEW YEARS.SOME CLAIMS DIE, BUT MTC ABE SE LIV ON
• UPDATED LDS HANDBOOK SOFTENS LANGUAGE ON GAYS

MORMON AND GAY: CHURCH SAYS YOU N BE BOTH

”Usg this intifier, he said, “is a step backward om the posive vernacular Print Nelson ed his September 2019 speech at Brigham Young Universy referrg to policy adjtments impactg “those who intify themselv as lbian, gay, bisexual or transgenr.

LGBTQ stunts at Brigham Young Universy celebrated by kissg on mp after the handbook change prompted the church-owned universy to remove s “homosexual behavr” prohibn om s honor , the Salt Lake Tribune reported. Now he and his wife Elizabeth are featured promently on “Mormon and Gay, ” discsg how they have grown together as the new materials gave them the tools for “a healthy dialogue.

POLICY CHANG ANNOUNCED FOR MEMBERS GAY MARRIAG, CHILDREN OF LGBT PARENTS

As public opn – and scientific unrstandg – on sexualy has shifted wh remarkable speed, many nomatns, cludg Mormon lears, have had to grapple wh a difficult qutn: How do they mata tradnal doctre that homosexual acts are sful, while acceptg and misterg to gay and lbian Mormons who scerely wish to rema part of their church? Senr church lears ll the new materials “simply an update” om the webpage “Mormons and Gays, ” released 2012 on a doma unaffiliated wh the church’s official webse.

“Church Teachgs” is loted on a separate page; roughly 1, 700 words and five vios on “lovg one another” prece the first direct statement that “homosexual activy is a s. Fulmer, who self-intifi as a gay Mormon and is featured on the new webse, said the new materials “give a steppg stone to have more open munitn about this and to te others on how to help and how to rpond to somebody who is gay. Trevor Johnson, a gay man who was raised Mormon but rigned his membership after gettg engaged, said, “When I first me out, the most damagg thg was feelg like people didn’t believe me that I was attracted to men.

GAY MORMONS DISTRSED BY NEW RUL ON SAME-SEX RELATNSHIPS

Keetch both say they have bee more ted on homosexualy through their volvement producg the materials — a two-year procs which volved the church learship, LGBT advocy groups and mental health profsnals. While the church once regard homosexualy as “curable” and enuraged members to be “forced” to heterosexual marriag, the church has backed off of this remendatn. In a church found on the ncept of ntual revelatn, many members qutn what those “future updat” uld be — cludg whether the church will revoke s ntroversial policy on the children of gay parents.

Prr to 1950Homosexualy regard by church as “s that dare not speak s name” 1952“Homosexualy” is ed publicly by a senr church lear for the first time, lled an “abomatn” parable to masturbatn and btialy1969Homosexualy regard as “curable” by a senr church lear; beg “forced” to heterosexual relatnships is enuraged 1976Church-sponsored Brigham Young Universy nducts electroshock therapy for 14 gay Mormons1978-81Church fac public backlash for opposg Equal Rights Amendment, argug uld extend legal protectn to “lbian and homosexual marriag” 1990sLears beg referrg to homosexualy as same-genr attractn, acknowledgg the realy of sexual attractn while nmng the s of actg on those feelgs 2008-09Church attempts to balance “relig liberty and nondiscrimatn” polil advocy, mpaigng agast legalizatn of gay marriage California and supportg a nondiscrimatn ordance Salt Lake Cy2012Church “gay” for the first time public munitns. In a seri of vios on “Mormons and Gays, ” lears ask members to “fd mon ground” while “beg te to relig beliefs”2015“Handbook of Instctn” for church lears is updated wh a new policy barrg children of same-sex upl om church baby blsgs and baptism. Same-sex marriage is regard as apostasy and grounds for exmunitn2016Church lnch new “Mormon and Gay” sectn on s official webse, which Mormon lears ll for creased dialogue about homosexualy, and gay Mormons share their experienc as active, celibate church members.

But none of the top church lears ordaed to the hight level of the prithood have mented on the new materials, somethg Mayne said is ditive of a wars towards a perceived “gay agenda” at the hight levels of the church. He hop the church’s top learship will speak wh homosexual married upl to unrstand that “a gay uple is really two Mormon people hopg to e as close as possible to everythg that we value and hold ar as a relign: fai, mted relatnships, lovg one another. This exchange reveals the pable tensn faced by a church attemptg to both nmn same-sex marriage and clu gay members — all while navigatg a ti of creasgly antagonistic public opn.

THIS WEEK MORMON LAND: GAY POLICY ADD TO MISSNARY MANUAL, APOSTLE’S WIFE REMEMBERS SGLE LIFE, CHURCH BUYS CHIGO TOWER(PHOTO URTY EXCEL ENTERTAMENT) JANE MANNG SS WH THE PARTRIDGE AND LAWRENCE SISTERS A SCENE OM THE UPG FEATURE FILM TLED "JANE & EMMA."BY DAVID NOYCE  | AUG. 17, 2018, 6:15 P.M. | UPDATED: 7:49 P.M.THE MORMON LAND NEWSLETTER IS A WEEKLY HIGHLIGHT REEL OF VELOPMENTS AND ABOUT THE CHURCH OF J CHRIST OF LATTER-DAY SATS, WHETHER HERALD HEADL, PREACHED OM THE PULP OR BUZZED ABOUT ON THE BACK BENCH. WANT MORMON LAND YOUR BOX? SUBSCRIBE HERE.THIS WEEK’S PODST: ‘JANE AND EMMA’ ON THE BIG SCREEN(COURTY EXCEL ENTERTAMENT) DANIELLE DEADWYLER AND EY GOSS PORTRAY JANE MANNG AND EMMA SMH, RPECTIVELY, THE UPG FEATURE FILM "JANE & EMMA."EMMA SMH STANDS ALONE AS THE MOST FAMO WOMAN MORMON HISTORY. THE WIFE OF CHURCH FOUNR JOSEPH SMH IS MENTNED HISTORI, JOURNALS, EVEN LDS SCRIPTURE.LS KNOWN IS HER ENDURG AND ENARG IENDSHIP WH THE EARLY CHURCH’S MOST NOTED BLACK WOMAN, JANE MANNG JAM.A FORTHG FILM, TLED “JANE AND EMMA,” DOCUMENTS AND DRAMATIZ THEIR RELATNSHIP.THE MOVIE’S DIRECTOR, CHANTELLE SQUIR, AND S SCREENWRER, MELISSA LEILANI LARSON, DISCS THE FILM, S TLE CHARACTERS AND THEIR HOP FOR WHAT THE FILM MIGHT DO FOR RACE RELATNS WH — AND WHOUT — THE CHURCH.LISTEN HERE.‘PREACH MY GOSPEL’ PREACH THE GAY POLICYTHE CHURCH’S HOTLY DISPUTED NOVEMBER 2015 POLICY — CLARG SAME-SEX MORMON UPL “APOSTAT” AND GENERALLY FORBIDDG THEIR CHILDREN OM RELIG R UNTIL THEY TURN 18 — HAS FOUND A HOME NOT ONLY THE FAH’S HANDBOOK FOR BISHOPS AND STAKE PRINTS BUT ALSO S TRAG MANUAL FOR MISSNARI.THE UPDATED “PREACH MY GOSPEL,” A FIELD GUI OF SORTS FOR PROSELYTIZERS, NTAS THE FOLLOWG NDN THAT MT BE MET BEFORE MISSNARI N BAPTIZE A MOR:“THE CHILD’S PRIMARY RINCE IS NOT WH PARENTS WHO ARE POLYGAMISTS OR A SAME-SEX RELATNSHIP. IF ONE OR BOTH OF THE CHILD’S PARENTS ARE POLYGAMISTS, YOU MT NTACT THE MISSN PRINT FOR ADDNAL RMATN. FOR ADDNAL RMATN REGARDG CHILDREN OF PARENTS SAME-SEX RELATNSHIPS, SEE FIRST PRINCY LETTER, NOV. 13, 2015 (“FIRST PRINCY CLARIFI CHURCH HANDBOOK CHANG,” ) AND “CHURCH PROVIS CONTEXT ON HANDBOOK CHANG AFFECTG SAME-SEX MARRIAG,” NOV. 6, 2015 ().”ADDISON JENKS, A BRIGHAM YOUNG UNIVERSY STUNT AND AN OPENLY GAY MORMON, TOLD KUER’S LEE HALE THAT THE ADDN TO “PREACH MY GOSPEL” APPEARS TO BE CEMENTG PLACE THE 2015 POLICY.THAT EXCLNARY CREE, HE SAID, SENTIALLY TOLD GAY LATTER-DAY SATS: “IF YOU WANT TO BE GAY AND MORMON, OK, BUT YOU HAVE TO BE MORMON. AND YOU N’T REALLY BE GAY.”APOSTLE’S WIFE REMEMBERS CHALLENG OF SGLE LIFE(RICK EGAN | THE SALT LAKE TRIBUNE) APOSTLE M. RSELL BALLARD, DALL H. OAKS, AND HIS WIFE, KRISTEN OAKS, AFTER THE SATURDAY MORNG SSN OF THE188TH ANNUAL GENERAL CONFERENCE SALT LAKE CY, SATURDAY, MARCH 31, 2018.IT’S NOT ALWAYS EASY TO BE SGLE A CHURCH THAT PREACH ETERNAL MARRIAGE AND THAT FAI ARE “CENTRAL TO THE CREATOR’S PLAN FOR THE ETERNAL STY OF HIS CHILDREN.”A PROMENT LDS WOMAN KNOWS SOMETHG ABOUT THAT CHALLENGE. AFTER ALL, SHE WAS SGLE FOR NEARLY 53 YEARS — UNTIL SHE MARRIED APOSTLE DALL H. OAKS TWO YEARS AFTER HIS FIRST WIFE DIED.“I REJOICED DURG MY SGLE YEARS, AND I SUFFERED THROUGH THEM, TOO,” KRISTEN MEREDH MCMA OAKS WR THE LDS CHURCH NEWS, “WHILE I WAS DISVERG WHAT HEAVENLY FATHER WANTED FOR ME.”KRISTEN OAKS NOT HOW HELPFUL SGL WARDS N BE AND HOW DIFFICULT THE TRANSN N BE FOR UNMARRIED ADULT MORMONS WHEN THEY SWCH TO TRADNAL “FAY” NGREGATNS.“WHAT THE SGL WARD DO PROVI IS AN ENVIRONMENT TO ASSOCIATE WH OTHERS OF SIAR TERTS AND AGE, WHERE BEG SGLE IS THE NORM. IT IS EASY TO FEEL ACCEPTED WHEN OUR LIV ARE SO MUCH LIKE THOSE AROUND ,” SHE WR. “... FOR SOME, A MOVE TO A FAY WARD N SEEM LIKE A SEPARATN OM A SURROGATE FAY AND CLOSE IENDS. IT IS EXACERBATED BY ENTERG A RINTIAL WARD AND SEARCHG FOR A PLACE TO F . I PERSONALLY REMEMBER HOW DIFFICULT WAS FOR ME AS A SGLE TO S ALONE CHURCH EVERY SUNDAY.”HOW DID SHE PE?“SERVICE AND LLGS,” SHE SAID, “MA ALL THE DIFFERENCE.”THE RELIGN OF NAME-DROPPG“TH SHALL MY CHURCH BE LLED THE LAST DAYS, EVEN THE CHURCH OF J CHRIST OF LATTER-DAY SATS.”SO CLARED JOSEPH SMH 1838 A WHAT HE REPORTED AS A REVELATN OM GOD.MORE THAN 180 YEARS LATER, PRINT RSELL M. NELSON PROCLAIMED MUCH THE SAME THG:“THE LORD HAS IMPRSED UPON MY MD THE IMPORTANCE OF THE NAME HE HAS REVEALED FOR HIS CHURCH, EVEN THE CHURCH OF J CHRIST OF LATTER-DAY SATS,” THE 93-YEAR-OLD LEAR SAID A NEWS RELEASE URGG MEMBERS, NONMEMBERS, MEDIA AND OTHERS TO STOP REFERRG TO THE UTAH-BASED FAH BY THE NICKNAME “LDS CHURCH” OR “MORMON CHURCH.”CALLG MEMBERS “MORMONS” IS OUT AS WELL. NELSON PREFERS “LATTER-DAY SATS.”THE CHURCH TRIED THIS BEFORE BUT BACKED AWAY AND EVEN EMBRACED THE “MORMON” MONIKER. WNS, FOR STANCE, THE “MEET THE MORMONS” MOVIE, THE “I’M A MORMON” AD MPAIGN AND THE MORMONANDGAY WEBSE.SOME LATTER-DAY SATS DOUBT THE LATT RENAMG MOVE WILL WORK AS WELL. CHECK BACK A FEW YEARS.SOME CLAIMS DIE, BUT MTC ABE SE LIV ON

This approach appears to be creatg a siar two-tier system of membership that pertas to lbian and gay Sats: You are wele to attend, and we regnize that you’re God’s children, but if you want to enjoy the blsgs of the temple and of full ward participatn, you are not wele any way to act on your inty. " "[If] homosexual sex wh marriage is wrong and heterosexual sex wh marriage is great, we're not treatg 'immoral nduct heterosexual or homosexual the same way, ' " as one person noted on Twter. The PoX got majorly walked back — which is FANTASTIC — although I’ll pot out that if homosexual sex wh marriage is wrong and heterosexual sex wh marriage is great, we’re not treatg “immoral nduct heterosexual or homosexual the same way” — jaclyn (@j_n_foster) April 4, 2019.

I believe & look forward to more wonrful surpris the futureI know there will e a pot my life when I will stand wh my fellow Sats & be able to say that I have not been nied any blsgs now or Eterny bee I am gay. Mormons Buildg Bridg is a muny of Latter-day Sats dited to nveyg love and acceptance to all those who intify as LGBTQI and those who experience same-sex attractn or genr Fay Fellowship is a service and support group for Mormons wh gay and lbian fay members.

In the first few months after beg lled as a bishop, I was surprised when three sets of parents my ward each approached me private to let me know that they had a child who intified as gay or transgenr. Intifyg as gay, lbian, or bisexual or experiencg same-sex attractn is not a s and do not prohib one om participatg the Church, holdg llgs, or attendg the temple. After KUER ially reported on the chang [Wednday], BYU officials walked that back a ltle and clarified later the day, what removg that homosexualy sectn actually They said that the language had been removed, but that the prcipl stay the same.

UPDATED LDS HANDBOOK SOFTENS LANGUAGE ON GAYS

And I should say, too, there are some stunts that thk that the BYU Honor Co Office is gettg too lax: that they need to be more firm agast homosexual relatnships. The Church Edutnal System honor appli to stunts and staff at BYU, BYU-Idaho, BYU-Hawaii, LDS Bs College (soon to be renamed Ensign College) and BYU-Pathway honor update removed a sectn on “homosexual behavr” that had prohibed all forms of same-sex physil timacy, or out of BYU stunts and supporters held an impromptu mp rally Wednday afternoon Brigham Square between the Wilkson Stunt Center and the library. “I went and asked (the Honor Co Office) if as a gay member of the church, do I have permissn to do what I see straight stunts do their relatnships, ” said Caleb Ratelle, 26, a senr manufacturg om Hayn, Idaho.