A recent study om Brazil shows how gay and bisexual men’s attus toward masculy and femy affect their mental health.
Contents:
- WHY ARE GAYS/LBIANS ALWAYS FEME/MASCULE MEDIA?
- BUTCH, FEMME, OR STRAIGHT ACTG? PARTNER PREFERENC OF GAY MEN AND LBIANS
WHY ARE GAYS/LBIANS ALWAYS FEME/MASCULE MEDIA?
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I remember growg up, my sister always thkg I was gay bee I’ve always had a feme speech and posture; the “limp wrist” as people ll , I always cross my legs right when I s and re very much about my fashn choic, etc. I do thk that sometim s my chanc wh women bee lookg at me, most people do assume that I am gay. There was a time once when I had wonred to myself if I was gay but thkg of beg wh another man do nothg for me at all.
If this off as homophobic, I do not mean that way at all. The ments tend to be filled wh a bunch of jok like "girl thats not your man" "idk he seems a lil gay to me" or pictur of limp wrists, thgs that imply that her partner is a closeted gay man and she's beg duped some way. As a bisexual trans man, I fd that at their worst, they n be regrsive, monosexist, or even jt pla homophobic- which hontly, is a b of a shame sce a lot of the jok are om queer (mostly gay) men.
And I don't want to imply that there are no feme gay men, or that closeted or ternally homophobic gay men don't form romantic relatnships wh women out of eher ternalized shame or safety purpos.
BUTCH, FEMME, OR STRAIGHT ACTG? PARTNER PREFERENC OF GAY MEN AND LBIANS
My issue wh the assumptn that feme men are always secretly gay do the followg: · pletely eras bisexual men (monosexist, bi erasure) · n potentially imply that gay men n be easily spotted and that there's only one type of gay man (homophobic) · rerc the ia that a te and ial heterosexual uple has the masule man and the feme woman (opposnal sexism) · n imply that gay men are the secret predators or disguise to take advantage of suatns, which is a sentiment a lot of queer people al wh and fight agast to simply exist (homophobia, queerphobia). and at s bt, · provis a very simplistic view of human teractn and enforc a very specific brand of masculy to then be "intifiable" as gay or straight.
But I hontly feel like there's a lot to unpack wh that general sentiment- bee I only gave two niche exampl off the top of my head of people who receive those sorts of jok, but this ia that feme men are all secetly gay persists multiple forms, and I jt wanted to make a post to maybe talk about . Feme gay man or Trans woman. Queer men who harbor negative attus about effemacy suffer om ternalized homophobia more than those who don’t, acrdg to a report the journal Trends Psychology.
“The biggt surpris were related [to] the tensy of the associatn between ternalized homophobia and anti-effemacy, ” Mozer M.