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• CAN SOMEONE BE HOMOSEXUAL AND NOT GAY?
• EQUAL RIGHTSTHE LONELY ISLANDTRACK 3 ON POPSTAR: NEVER STOP NEVER STOPPG FEATURGP!NKPRODUCED BYNI, SOFLY & 1 MORETHIS IS CONNOR4REAL’S BIG SGLE NOUNCG ALL THE DISCRIMATN THAT MEMBERS OF THE LGBT MUNY RECEIVE. ALL THE WHILE HOWEVER, HE WANTS TO RERCE THAT HE IS NOT… READ MORE JUN. 3, 20161 VIEWER65.1K VIEWS35 CONTRIBUTORSEQUAL RIGHTS LYRICS[INTRO: CONNER4REAL]DISCRIMATNIT A'T RIGHT[VERSE 1: CONNER4REAL]I'M NOT GAY, BUT IF I WAS, I WOULD WANT EQUAL RIGHTSI'M NOT GAY, BUT IF I WERE, I WOULD MARRY WHO I LIKEIT'S NOT FAIR (I'M NOT GAY) THAT THE ERNMENT HAS A SAYIN WHO N LOVE WHO (NOT GAY)OR TO WHICH GOD YOU N PRAY (I'M N'GAY)IT GETS ME SO ANGRY, ON BEHALF OF THEM, I FEEL PASSNATE (NOT GAY)SO I'LL PRAY FOR THEM AND I SAY FOR THEM"WE NEED TO MAKE A CHANGE" (NOT GAY)I SEE CLEAR AS DAYTHIS AREA IS NOT GREY (TTI)WE NEED EQUALY AND FOR ALL TO SEETHAT THIS IS THE NEW WAY (NOT GAY)IT JT SEEMS (NOT GAY) WRONG (NOT GAY)THAT NO ONE SEEMS TO RE (SPORTS)WE N'T NTUE TO PRETENDTHIS (NOT GAY) MADNS HAS TO END (NOT GAY)[CHOS: P!NK & CONNER4REAL]I WAS BORN THIS WAY (STRAIGHT)YOU WERE BORN YOUR WAY (GAY)GAY OR STRAIGHT, STRAIGHT OR GAY, 'S ALL OKAY (SURE)IT'S TIME TO MAKE A CHANGE (Y)IT'S TIME TO STOP THE HATE (UH)'CSE WHO YOU ARE IS BETIFUL (NOT GAY)YOU MIGHT ALSO LIKE[VERSE 2: CONNER4REAL]WE N'T LIVE THIS WAY (N'GAY)WE N'T TURN AWAY (N'GAY)SO I MAKE THIS VOW (TTI)THE TIME FOR CHANGE IS NOW (SPORTS)LYG BED NEXT TO TEN BETIFUL GIRLS (ALL STRAIGHT)AND WHILE I MA LOVE TO EVERY ONE OF THEMI WAS THKG ABOUT THE WORLD (HOT WGS)HOW IS THAT I N HAVE SO MUCH STRAIGHT SEXWHILE TWO DUS ARE OPPRSED? (NOT GAY)FOR HAVG SEX (NOT GAY)OR PUTTG ON A WEDDG DRS (I ASSUME)I DON'T REALLY KNOW THAT MUCH ABOUT (BEEF JERKY TAST GOOD)POLICS ARE IMPORTANTAND IF GIRLS WANNA HAVE SEX WH ME 'E I SAID THIS, SO BE (N'GAY)I'M NOT A HERO, I'M JT SPEAKG THE TTHI'M NOT A HERO, DON'T LL ME A HERO(BEER, HOAGIE, SWEAT PANTS, NOT GAY)YEAH, NOT A HERO (TTI, NOT GAY)WHOO![CHOS: P!NK & CONNER4REAL]I'M NOT A HERO (I'M JT A PERSON)SO DON'T LL ME A HERO (NOT SOME KD OF WORLD LEAR)I JT WANT EQUAL RIGHTS (YEAH)AND TO SLEEP AT NIGHT (YEAH)NEXT TO A GIRL[VERSE 3: CONNER4REAL]TE LOVE TMPS ALL (PREDATOR)(FLYG KICKS, NOT GAY, BIG WATCH)(NOT GAY, MISSNARY) ONE LOVE(GYM SOCKS, NUNCHUCK AND NOT GAY)(LIGHTER FLUID, HD, NJA) WORLD PEACE(4-WHEEL DRIVE) GAY MARRIAGE (LOVE BEAV)FREE LOVE (GOLF CLUBS)TWO GUYS (NOT GAY)RABOW (MUFF DIVE)HARVEY MILK/SEAN PENN (NOT GAY)(DM SOLO, URTSI SEATS) SAFE SEX(ONE-ARMED PH UPS) LYNYRD SKYNYRDI'M NOT GAY, I'M NOT GAYI'M NOT, NOT, NOT, NOT, N-N-N-NOT GAYI'M NOT GAY[CHOS: P!NK & CONNER4REAL]I WAS BORN THIS WAY (I'M STRAIGHT)YOU WERE BORN YOUR WAY (YOU'RE GAY)GAY OR STRAIGHT, STRAIGHT OR GAY, 'S ALL OKAY(AND NOW 'S TIME FOR SEXUAL EEDOM FOR ALL)IT'S TIME TO MAKE A CHANGE (SEXUAL EEDOM FOR ALL)IT'S TIME TO STOP THE HATE (SEXUAL EEDOM FOR ALL)'CSE WHO YOU ARE IS BETIFUL (SEXUAL EEDOM FOR ALL)NOT GAY1EMBEDCANCELHOW TO FORMAT LYRICS:TYPE OUT ALL LYRICS, EVEN REPEATG SONG PARTS LIKE THE CHOSLYRICS SHOULD BE BROKEN DOWN TO DIVIDUAL LUSE SECTN HEARS ABOVE DIFFERENT SONG PARTS LIKE [VERSE], [CHOS], ETC.USE ALICS (<I>LYRIC</I>) AND BOLD (<B>LYRIC</B>) TO DISTGUISH BETWEEN DIFFERENT VOLISTS THE SAME SONG PARTIF YOU DON’T UNRSTAND A LYRIC, E [?]TO LEARN MORE, CHECK OUT OUR TRANSCRIPTN GUI OR VIS OUR TRANSCRIBERS FOMABOUTGENI ANNOTATN1 NTRIBUTORTHIS IS CONNOR4REAL’S BIG SGLE NOUNCG ALL THE DISCRIMATN THAT MEMBERS OF THE LGBT MUNY RECEIVE. ALL THE WHILE HOWEVER, HE WANTS TO RERCE THAT HE IS NOT GAY.EXPAND +17SHAREASK A QUTN ABOUT THIS SONGASK A QUTN *‌WHO PRODUCED “EQUAL RIGHTS” BY THE LONELY ISLAND?WHEN DID THE LONELY ISLAND RELEASE “EQUAL RIGHTS”?WHO WROTE “EQUAL RIGHTS” BY THE LONELY ISLAND?POPSTAR: NEVER STOP NEVER STOPPG (2016)THE LONELY ISLAND1. I’M SO HUMBLE2. HOT NEW SGLE (DIALOGUE)3. EQUAL RIGHTS4. TURN UP THE BEEF5. FT GIRL (B LAN SONG)6. MONA LISA7. ARE OR AREN’T? (DIALOGUE)8. HUNTER THE HUNGRY IS GON’ EAT9. SHOULD I MOVE?10. 2 BANDOS11. THGS MY JEEP12. KILL THIS MIC (DIALOGUE)13. ASHLEY WEDNDAY14. FUCK OFF15. DONKEY ROLL16. TRIP TO SPA (DIALOGUE)17. IBHA18. OWEN’S SONG19. WHAT WAS THAT BEAT? (DIALOGUE)20. SICK GLENDA21. INCREDIBLE THOUGHTS22. ME LIKEY DAT23. LEGALIZE IT24. I’M A WEIRDO25. KARATE GUY26. ROCK ROLL SKATE27. HEY YA HO28. MAXIMCREDSFEATURGP!NKPRODUCED BYNI, SOFLY & YOAN CHIRCUWRTEN BYSOFLY, NI, YOAN CHIRCU, JORMA TACNE, AKIVA SCHAFFER & ANDY SAMBERGVOLSP!NK & ANDY SAMBERGRELEASE DATEJUNE 3, 2016TAGSRAPPOPSOUNDTRACKCOMEDYEXPAND COMMENTSADD A MENTSIGN UP AND DROP KNOWLEDGE ?GENI IS THE ULTIMATE SOURCE OF MIC KNOWLEDGE, CREATED BY SCHOLARS LIKE YOU WHO SHARE FACTS AND SIGHT ABOUT THE SONGS AND ARTISTS THEY LOVE.SIGN UPGENI IS THE WORLD’S BIGGT LLECTN OF SONG LYRICS AND MIL KNOWLEDGE
• WHY SOME STRAIGHT PEOPLE MIGHT HAVE GAY SEX
• IM NOT GAY
• I LIKE GUYS BUT I DON’T WANT TO BE GAY. HOW DO I STOP BEG GAY?
• A RSIAN REALY TV SHOW LLED 'I'M NOT GAY' MAK 8 NTTANTS GUS WHICH IS GAY — AND 'S HOSTED BY A RIGHT-WG POLICIAN
• I'M NOT GAY BUT $20 IS $20
• HOW DO I KNOW I’M NOT REALLY GAY/STRAIGHT?
• EVERYONE THKS I'M GAY BUT I'M NOT
• I M NOT GAY BUT 20 DOLLARS IS 20 DOLLARS T-SHIRTS
• I’M 43 – BUT I’M MA TO FEEL LIKE A DOSR BY YOUNGER GAY MEN

CAN SOMEONE BE HOMOSEXUAL AND NOT GAY?

So when we therapists are nonted wh male clients, often married on, who e to wh ep nflicts about their sexual attractn to other men, we often fd that they are willg to e the word “homosexual, ” but chew the “gay” label.

Bee “gay” impli an embracg of the gay liftyle — gay bars, gay pri paras, perhaps multiple sex partners, or even anonymo sex. Unfortunately, much of our natn’s polics have long exacerbated the problem as well, shamg and vilifyg homosexualy, leadg legns of men stgglg wh sexual inty to ternalize their homophobia. For example, gay men the Mormon fah are moral nflict.

EQUAL RIGHTSTHE LONELY ISLANDTRACK 3 ON POPSTAR: NEVER STOP NEVER STOPPG FEATURGP!NKPRODUCED BYNI, SOFLY & 1 MORETHIS IS CONNOR4REAL’S BIG SGLE NOUNCG ALL THE DISCRIMATN THAT MEMBERS OF THE LGBT MUNY RECEIVE. ALL THE WHILE HOWEVER, HE WANTS TO RERCE THAT HE IS NOT… READ MORE JUN. 3, 20161 VIEWER65.1K VIEWS35 CONTRIBUTORSEQUAL RIGHTS LYRICS[INTRO: CONNER4REAL]DISCRIMATNIT A'T RIGHT[VERSE 1: CONNER4REAL]I'M NOT GAY, BUT IF I WAS, I WOULD WANT EQUAL RIGHTSI'M NOT GAY, BUT IF I WERE, I WOULD MARRY WHO I LIKEIT'S NOT FAIR (I'M NOT GAY) THAT THE ERNMENT HAS A SAYIN WHO N LOVE WHO (NOT GAY)OR TO WHICH GOD YOU N PRAY (I'M N'GAY)IT GETS ME SO ANGRY, ON BEHALF OF THEM, I FEEL PASSNATE (NOT GAY)SO I'LL PRAY FOR THEM AND I SAY FOR THEM"WE NEED TO MAKE A CHANGE" (NOT GAY)I SEE CLEAR AS DAYTHIS AREA IS NOT GREY (TTI)WE NEED EQUALY AND FOR ALL TO SEETHAT THIS IS THE NEW WAY (NOT GAY)IT JT SEEMS (NOT GAY) WRONG (NOT GAY)THAT NO ONE SEEMS TO RE (SPORTS)WE N'T NTUE TO PRETENDTHIS (NOT GAY) MADNS HAS TO END (NOT GAY)[CHOS: P!NK & CONNER4REAL]I WAS BORN THIS WAY (STRAIGHT)YOU WERE BORN YOUR WAY (GAY)GAY OR STRAIGHT, STRAIGHT OR GAY, 'S ALL OKAY (SURE)IT'S TIME TO MAKE A CHANGE (Y)IT'S TIME TO STOP THE HATE (UH)'CSE WHO YOU ARE IS BETIFUL (NOT GAY)YOU MIGHT ALSO LIKE[VERSE 2: CONNER4REAL]WE N'T LIVE THIS WAY (N'GAY)WE N'T TURN AWAY (N'GAY)SO I MAKE THIS VOW (TTI)THE TIME FOR CHANGE IS NOW (SPORTS)LYG BED NEXT TO TEN BETIFUL GIRLS (ALL STRAIGHT)AND WHILE I MA LOVE TO EVERY ONE OF THEMI WAS THKG ABOUT THE WORLD (HOT WGS)HOW IS THAT I N HAVE SO MUCH STRAIGHT SEXWHILE TWO DUS ARE OPPRSED? (NOT GAY)FOR HAVG SEX (NOT GAY)OR PUTTG ON A WEDDG DRS (I ASSUME)I DON'T REALLY KNOW THAT MUCH ABOUT (BEEF JERKY TAST GOOD)POLICS ARE IMPORTANTAND IF GIRLS WANNA HAVE SEX WH ME 'E I SAID THIS, SO BE (N'GAY)I'M NOT A HERO, I'M JT SPEAKG THE TTHI'M NOT A HERO, DON'T LL ME A HERO(BEER, HOAGIE, SWEAT PANTS, NOT GAY)YEAH, NOT A HERO (TTI, NOT GAY)WHOO![CHOS: P!NK & CONNER4REAL]I'M NOT A HERO (I'M JT A PERSON)SO DON'T LL ME A HERO (NOT SOME KD OF WORLD LEAR)I JT WANT EQUAL RIGHTS (YEAH)AND TO SLEEP AT NIGHT (YEAH)NEXT TO A GIRL[VERSE 3: CONNER4REAL]TE LOVE TMPS ALL (PREDATOR)(FLYG KICKS, NOT GAY, BIG WATCH)(NOT GAY, MISSNARY) ONE LOVE(GYM SOCKS, NUNCHUCK AND NOT GAY)(LIGHTER FLUID, HD, NJA) WORLD PEACE(4-WHEEL DRIVE) GAY MARRIAGE (LOVE BEAV)FREE LOVE (GOLF CLUBS)TWO GUYS (NOT GAY)RABOW (MUFF DIVE)HARVEY MILK/SEAN PENN (NOT GAY)(DM SOLO, URTSI SEATS) SAFE SEX(ONE-ARMED PH UPS) LYNYRD SKYNYRDI'M NOT GAY, I'M NOT GAYI'M NOT, NOT, NOT, NOT, N-N-N-NOT GAYI'M NOT GAY[CHOS: P!NK & CONNER4REAL]I WAS BORN THIS WAY (I'M STRAIGHT)YOU WERE BORN YOUR WAY (YOU'RE GAY)GAY OR STRAIGHT, STRAIGHT OR GAY, 'S ALL OKAY(AND NOW 'S TIME FOR SEXUAL EEDOM FOR ALL)IT'S TIME TO MAKE A CHANGE (SEXUAL EEDOM FOR ALL)IT'S TIME TO STOP THE HATE (SEXUAL EEDOM FOR ALL)'CSE WHO YOU ARE IS BETIFUL (SEXUAL EEDOM FOR ALL)NOT GAY1EMBEDCANCELHOW TO FORMAT LYRICS:TYPE OUT ALL LYRICS, EVEN REPEATG SONG PARTS LIKE THE CHOSLYRICS SHOULD BE BROKEN DOWN TO DIVIDUAL LUSE SECTN HEARS ABOVE DIFFERENT SONG PARTS LIKE [VERSE], [CHOS], ETC.USE ALICS (<I>LYRIC</I>) AND BOLD (<B>LYRIC</B>) TO DISTGUISH BETWEEN DIFFERENT VOLISTS THE SAME SONG PARTIF YOU DON’T UNRSTAND A LYRIC, E [?]TO LEARN MORE, CHECK OUT OUR TRANSCRIPTN GUI OR VIS OUR TRANSCRIBERS FOMABOUTGENI ANNOTATN1 NTRIBUTORTHIS IS CONNOR4REAL’S BIG SGLE NOUNCG ALL THE DISCRIMATN THAT MEMBERS OF THE LGBT MUNY RECEIVE. ALL THE WHILE HOWEVER, HE WANTS TO RERCE THAT HE IS NOT GAY.EXPAND +17SHAREASK A QUTN ABOUT THIS SONGASK A QUTN *‌WHO PRODUCED “EQUAL RIGHTS” BY THE LONELY ISLAND?WHEN DID THE LONELY ISLAND RELEASE “EQUAL RIGHTS”?WHO WROTE “EQUAL RIGHTS” BY THE LONELY ISLAND?POPSTAR: NEVER STOP NEVER STOPPG (2016)THE LONELY ISLAND1. I’M SO HUMBLE2. HOT NEW SGLE (DIALOGUE)3. EQUAL RIGHTS4. TURN UP THE BEEF5. FT GIRL (B LAN SONG)6. MONA LISA7. ARE OR AREN’T? (DIALOGUE)8. HUNTER THE HUNGRY IS GON’ EAT9. SHOULD I MOVE?10. 2 BANDOS11. THGS MY JEEP12. KILL THIS MIC (DIALOGUE)13. ASHLEY WEDNDAY14. FUCK OFF15. DONKEY ROLL16. TRIP TO SPA (DIALOGUE)17. IBHA18. OWEN’S SONG19. WHAT WAS THAT BEAT? (DIALOGUE)20. SICK GLENDA21. INCREDIBLE THOUGHTS22. ME LIKEY DAT23. LEGALIZE IT24. I’M A WEIRDO25. KARATE GUY26. ROCK ROLL SKATE27. HEY YA HO28. MAXIMCREDSFEATURGP!NKPRODUCED BYNI, SOFLY & YOAN CHIRCUWRTEN BYSOFLY, NI, YOAN CHIRCU, JORMA TACNE, AKIVA SCHAFFER & ANDY SAMBERGVOLSP!NK & ANDY SAMBERGRELEASE DATEJUNE 3, 2016TAGSRAPPOPSOUNDTRACKCOMEDYEXPAND COMMENTSADD A MENTSIGN UP AND DROP KNOWLEDGE ?GENI IS THE ULTIMATE SOURCE OF MIC KNOWLEDGE, CREATED BY SCHOLARS LIKE YOU WHO SHARE FACTS AND SIGHT ABOUT THE SONGS AND ARTISTS THEY LOVE.SIGN UPGENI IS THE WORLD’S BIGGT LLECTN OF SONG LYRICS AND MIL KNOWLEDGE

Durg the’90s, I beme a “gay-affirmative therapist. I warned them of the pfalls of keepg their sexual orientatn secret: a life of creased prsn, pursug a secret life the gay unrground wh the danger of beg ught, how attemptg to supprs urg n often e them to bee even more obssed wh them. Beg a gay man, I was tryg to brg them to where I was at.

Durg this time, a man don’t see himself as gay, only homosexual. The term gay is too affirmative, and they are not ready to accept .

WHY SOME STRAIGHT PEOPLE MIGHT HAVE GAY SEX

I have treated many men who are of Mormon, Orthodox Jewish, Catholic, and other religns who thk of homosexualy as a pathology.

Their pa is excciatg, but I honor their bravery riskg losg everythg to ensure they have a qualy life as a gay man. They may need, om time to time, to seek further therapy, but wh the right therapist, one who has thoroughly unrstood the dangers of such practic of “reparative therapy” which the therapist seeks to change the client’s sexual inty om gay to straight. Bee the labels “homosexual” or “gay” rry such a stigma, some of the men seek help for their “sex addictn” and see their homosexualy as an actg out of same-sex urg.

Beg homosexual, gay, or havg same-sex attractn is not sex addictn, and should never be treated as such. Hetero-Emotnal and Homosexual. I thk of them as beg hetero-emotnal homosexuals.

IM NOT GAY

"i'm not gay but 20$ is 20$". [Verse 3: Conner4Real]Te love tmps all (Predator)(Flyg kicks, not gay, big watch)(Not gay, missnary) One Love(Gym socks, nunchuck and not gay)(Lighter fluid, HD, Nja) World peace(4-wheel drive) Gay marriage (Love beav)Free love (Golf clubs)Two guys (Not gay)Rabow (Muff dive)Harvey Milk/Sean Penn (Not gay)(Dm solo, urtsi seats) Safe sex(One-armed ph ups) Lynyrd SkynyrdI'm not gay, I'm not gayI'm not, not, not, not, n-n-n-not gayI'm not gay[Chos: P! Nk & Conner4Real]I was born this way (I'm straight)You were born your way (You're gay)Gay or straight, straight or gay, 's all okay(And now 's time for sexual eedom for all)It's time to make a change (Sexual eedom for all)It's time to stop the hate (Sexual eedom for all)'Cse who you are is betiful (Sexual eedom for all)Not gay.

Everyone I meet thks I’m gay. So ’s been a mon trend ever sce I was highschool that everyone always asks one way or another “is he gay” or “ are you gay” and ’s gettg irratg. In terms of pure numbers, we know that the vast majory of those who have gay sex intify as straight — and this is te for both women and men.

I LIKE GUYS BUT I DON’T WANT TO BE GAY. HOW DO I STOP BEG GAY?

Were they heterosexist or homophobic?

The dividuals tend to engage gay sex private enunters, wh some appearg to be early phas of “g out” as not straight.

Though they loved the sexual experience and wanted to have a future relatnship wh the person, they had mixed attus toward homosexualy and premaral sex. Hence, they believed that homosexual relatns were almost always wrong and scribed their polics as nservative.

A RSIAN REALY TV SHOW LLED 'I'M NOT GAY' MAK 8 NTTANTS GUS WHICH IS GAY — AND 'S HOSTED BY A RIGHT-WG POLICIAN

Bee only four sexual orientatn optns were given to stunts — heterosexual, bisexual, homosexual, and don’t know — perhaps many of the dividuals were misplaced the straight tegory.

Are the the men who will bee vigilant wh anti-gay rhetoric, and who will e eher their nservative relig or polil beliefs to jtify their behavr?

If we lived a culture which havg some gree of same-sex sexualy did not imply that you th had to be the “dread” lbian, gay, or bisexual, would be easier for dividuals who stggle or n’t ci their sexualy to be te to their thentic self.

I'M NOT GAY BUT $20 IS $20

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HOW DO I KNOW I’M NOT REALLY GAY/STRAIGHT?

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EVERYONE THKS I'M GAY BUT I'M NOT

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I M NOT GAY BUT 20 DOLLARS IS 20 DOLLARS T-SHIRTS

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I’M 43 – BUT I’M MA TO FEEL LIKE A DOSR BY YOUNGER GAY MEN

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